Does it feel like you’ve completely lost yourself after having your baby? 

You’re not alone. So many postpartum moms feel like they’re living in someone else’s body, exhausted, overwhelmed, and unsure how to start feeling like themselves again. Between broken sleep, endless feedings, and giving every ounce of energy to your little one, self-care can feel impossible.

But here’s the truth: you deserve to feel like you again. And it doesn’t have to mean hours away from your baby or a complicated routine. Small, intentional shifts can spark that light in you again. Let’s dive into 10 easy ways to start.

1. Get Dressed in Real Clothes

I know, jeans might sound like a cruel joke right now. But even swapping your leggings for a comfy maxi dress or brushing your hair and swiping on a little mascara can shift your entire mood. It’s not about vanity. It’s about reminding yourself: your needs matter, too.

2. Eat a High Protein Breakfast Every Day

Skipping breakfast might seem normal, but it can leave you exhausted and craving sugar by 10 a.m. Fueling your body with a smoothie, overnight oats, or eggs gives your brain and metabolism the boost it needs, especially while healing and producing milk.

3. Take a Quick Shower or Bath (Especially at Night to Wind Down)

Even a two-minute shower can reset your nervous system. Turn on calming music, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. These tiny acts of self-care remind your body that you are safe and cared for.

4. Enjoy Your Morning Coffee

Don’t just gulp it down while chasing toddlers or nursing the baby. Find a quiet moment to savor it, whether in the car after school drop-off or at home once the baby is settled. Let it be a ritual, not just a lifeline.

5. Book a Little “Me Time” Appointment

Whether it’s a mani-pedi, a haircut, or a massage, these small moments of adult connection and solo time are game changers for your confidence and energy.

6. Plan a Guilt-Free Adult Connection

Coffee with a friend. A slow walk with your spouse. Or even a candlelit dinner at home after the kids go to bed. Reconnecting with loved ones without constant interruptions helps you feel like you again.

7. Get Outside for a Walk or Drive

Even if the stroller or car seat is occupied, the movement, fresh air, and mental reset can work wonders. Bonus points if you can enjoy a podcast, your favorite song, or just silence.

8. Ask for Help Without Guilt

Asking for help doesn’t make you weak. It makes you supported. Trade meals with a friend, ask your partner for 30 minutes to shower, or let a loved one snuggle the baby while you rest. You were never meant to do this alone.

9. Create a 5-Minute Nightly Wind-Down

A quick stretch session, a warm cup of tea, or even a gratitude list before bed signals to your body that it’s safe to rest. These mini routines can drastically improve your mood and sleep.

10. Speak to Yourself Like You Would a Friend

Notice those harsh thoughts: “I look awful,” “I got nothing done.” Pause and reframe. Try: “I’m healing. I’m doing my best. My worth isn’t measured by productivity.”

Start Small. You Deserve This

If you’ve been feeling lost, invisible, or overwhelmed in postpartum life, know this: you’re not broken.

Start with just one tip from this list. As it becomes a habit, add another. Each tiny shift helps you reclaim your energy, confidence, and sense of self without sacrificing your milk supply or precious time with your baby.

If you want to feel like you again after baby without sacrificing your favorite foods or milk supply, be sure to check out my free workshop.